15 Tips to Raising Great Children

Just nk share tips utk semua parents. Tips ni mama dpt dr email yg di 4wd dr kawan office mama.

Children are easily influenced by their surroundings. These days, it is
extremely difficult to expose our children to an ideal Islamic environment
given the influences from media, friends and even other members of the
family. With television, radio, Internet and forms of media mostly touting
un-Islamic values, it is up to parents and adults close to the children to
set the correct example.

15 Tips to Raising Great Children :

Here are some tips you may want to follow in helping your children grow up
with Islamic values.

*Start by teaching them the importance of Worshipping only Allah:* The best
thing any Muslim parent could ever teach their children is to emphasize,
from the day they can comprehend, that Allah (swt) is One and no one is
worthy of worship except Allah (swt). This is the fundamental message of our
Prophet (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) and it is our key to
Paradise.

*Treat them kindly:* Kindness begets kindness. If we were kind to our
children, they in turn would show kindness to others. Our Prophet (may
Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) was the best example in being kind
to children.

*Teach them examples of Muslim heroes:* Instead of Batman or Superman, tell
them about real heroes such as Abu Bakr, Umar ibn Khattab, Othman bin Affan,
Ali bin Abi Talib and others. Tell them how Muslim leaders brought a real
peaceful change in the world and won the hearts of Muslims and non-Muslims
alike.

*Let children sit with adults:* It is preferable for children to be among
adults, especially when listening to Islamic lectures. The Prophet (may
Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) would often put children in the
front row when he spoke to the people.

*Make them feel important:* Consult them in family matters. Let them feel
they are important members of the family and have a part to play in the
growth and well being of the family.

*Go out as a family:* Take family trips rather than allowing your children
to always go out only with their friends. Let your children be around family
and friends from whom you want them to pick up their values. Always remember
that your children will become who they are around with most of the time.
So, watch their company and above all give them YOUR company.

*Praise them:* Praise is a powerful tool with children, especially in front
of others. Children feel a sense of pride when their parents’ praise them
and will be keen to perform other good deeds. However, praise must be
limited to Islamic deeds and deeds of moral value.

*Avoid humiliation:* Similarly, do not humiliate them in front of others.
Children make mistakes. Sometimes, these mistakes occur in their efforts to
please the parents. If you are unhappy with your children, tell them in
private.

*Sports:* The Prophet (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him)
encouraged sports such as swimming, running and horse riding. Other sports
that build character and physical strength are also recommended, as long as
the children maintain their Islamic identity, wear appropriate clothes and
do not engage in unnecessary mixing.

*Responsibility:* Have faith in their abilities to perform tasks. Give them
chores to do in line with their age. Convince them that they are performing
an important function and you will find them eager to help you out again.

*Don’t spoil them:* Children are easily spoiled. If they receive everything
they ask for, they will expect you to oblige on every occasion. Be wise in
what you buy for them. Avoid extravagance and unnecessary luxuries. Take
them to an orphanage or poor area of your city once in a while so they can
see how privileged they are.

*Don’t be friends:* It is common in the West for parents to consider their
children as friends. In Islam, it doesn’t work that way. If you have ever
heard how friends talk to each other, then you will know that this is not
how a parent-child relationship should be. You are the parents, and they
should respect you, and this is what you should be teaching them. The
friendship part should be limited to you and them keeping an open dialog so
they can share their concerns with you and ask you questions when they have
any.

*Pray with them:* Involve them in acts of worship. When they are young, let
them see you in act of salaah (salat). Soon, they would be trying to imitate
you. Wake them up for Fajr and pray as a family. Talk to them about the
rewards of salaah so that it doesn’t feel like a burden to them.

*Emphasize halaal:* It is not always good to say “this is haraam, that is
haraam”. While you must educate them on haraam things, Islam is full of
halaal and tell your children to thank Allah (swt) for the bounties He has
bestowed on them- not just for food and clothes. Tell them to be thankful
for having eyes that see, ears that hear, arms and legs and, the ultimate
blessing, Islam in their hearts.

*Set an example:* As parents, you are the best example the children can
have. If you talk to your parents rudely, expect your children to do the
same to you. If you are disrespectful to others, your children will follow
too. Islam is filled with Divine advice on the best ways to bring up your
children. That makes it an obligation upon parents to be good Muslims so
their children will try to emulate them. If you don’t take Islam seriously,
neither will your children. It goes back to our third point, which is to
give them Islamic heroes. As a parent, you should be their number one hero.
So yg penting kita kena bebalik kpd ajaran Islam. Islam tu mmg indah. Klu kita ikut apa yg disyorkan Islam dlm mendidik anak2 kita, Insyaallah kita x akn ada masalah mcm skrg nih. Mama pn takut jgk dgn keadaan masa depn anak2 kita nnti. Moga2 diorg menjadim muslim/muslimah sejati dan x terpengaruh dgn tipu daya syaitan. Insyaallah…


4 comments:

salam.....good info :) thanks ya cos sudi share untuk pengetahuan bersama

 

ibubapa adalah guru terbaik utk anak2

 

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